I have been speaking for 38 years, all over the world, and with very varied audiences. I talk about losing my dad in the Brighton bomb when I was 27 years old and how I dedicated my life to creating peace.
When I speak about choosing love over hatred and befriending the man who killed my father, it can have a profound and multi-faceted impact on people.
Here are some of the potential effects it can have:
- Inspiration: Many people may find my story deeply inspiring. My ability to choose forgiveness and love in the face of such a traumatic event can serve as a powerful example of the strength of the human spirit. It may encourage others to reevaluate their own grievances and consider the possibility of forgiveness and reconciliation in their own lives.
- Healing: My story can be therapeutic for individuals who have experienced their own traumas or losses. It may provide them with hope that healing and transformation are possible, even in the most challenging circumstances. Hearing about my journey to forgiveness can offer a sense of relief and a path forward for those struggling with their own pain.
- Empathy: It can foster empathy among your audience. They may better understand the complexities of human emotions and the power of empathy itself. This newfound understanding can lead to more compassionate and empathetic interactions with others in their own lives.
- Reduced Prejudice: My story can challenge stereotypes and biases that people may hold about individuals who have committed heinous acts. It can encourage a more nuanced and compassionate perspective, reminding people that everyone has a story, and understanding the root causes of someone’s actions can lead to reconciliation.
- Promoting Dialogue: My experience can stimulate important conversations about forgiveness, reconciliation, and the potential for transformation in even the darkest situations. This dialogue can be a catalyst for personal growth and societal change.
- Breaking the Cycle of Violence: By choosing love and forgiveness, I show an alternative to the cycle of hatred and revenge. My story may motivate others to seek peaceful solutions and alternatives to violence and retaliation.
- Community Building: My message can help build stronger, more inclusive communities by emphasizing the importance of understanding and supporting one another. It can encourage people to come together and work towards healing and unity.
- Impact on Future Generations: My story can serve as a lesson for future generations about the importance of forgiveness, empathy, and reconciliation. It can inspire them to approach conflicts and challenges with a mindset of love and understanding.
My focus is on demonstrating that you can create a different life. I am professional, empathetic, and engaging. I can connect with my audience on a personal level while delivering my message with clarity and conviction.
I specialise in helping individuals and organisations effectively manage and resolve conflicts.
Are you needing support in resolving conflict?
Are you feeling scared and out of your depth with a ongoing challenge which is affecting your overall wellbeing?
Would you like to feel empowered and confident to know how to resolve a situation which is causing you distress?
I am here for you, to listen, understand and support you in making the changes you wish to make.
How the session will be?
Individual and tailored to your needs so that you feel emotionally safe.
A session begins with me listening to you in a non judgemental way, once you feel heard and acknowledged, we will move to looking at how you respond to your conflict. We will look at what are your triggers and how can you empower yourself to not be triggered, what part of the conflict belongs to the other person. Once you are clear what you need to change we will talk about strategies in bite size small steps. It is your journey and I am there to walk with you as you make these changes in your life.
Conflict coaching can be useful in a variety of circumstances, including conflicts in the workplace, relationships, community disputes, family disagreements, or business conflicts as well as with internal conflicts. I can work individually or with couples and groups.
Contact me for a free 30 minutes session to see if you would like to work with me.
Sessions will help you:
• Take responsibility as you move from being a victim to becoming victorious
• Become empowered and trust yourself
• Nurture your self worth and grow in confidence
• Develop emotional intelligence
• Create healthy boundaries
• Transform emotional pain into compassion
• Be a better listener
• Become more empathetic
• Look after yourself better
• Become skilled in conflict transformation
• Be able to say No and learn how to challenge behaviour without blaming
I have been offering workshops for over 30 years on the subjects of:
- Peacebuilding Skills
- Restorative Processes
- Having a Difficult Conversation
- Conflict Transformation
I always create an emotionally safe place where all issues can be spoken about, where all experiences can be shared without any judging or blaming.
- improved Communication Skills: Participants learn effective communication techniques, such as active listening, nonviolent communication, and assertiveness. These skills enable them to express their thoughts and feelings more clearly and empathetically.
- Conflict Resolution Competence: Workshops equip individuals with the tools and strategies needed to address conflicts constructively. Participants become more skilled at identifying the root causes of conflicts and finding solutions that meet the needs of all parties involved.
- Empathy and Understanding: Difficult dialogue workshops often emphasize empathy and understanding. Participants learn to see conflicts from multiple perspectives, fostering greater empathy for others and reducing stereotypes and biases.
- Reduced Tension: Participants learn how to de-escalate tense situations and reduce hostility. This can lead to a more peaceful and cooperative environment in personal and professional settings.
- Enhanced Problem-Solving: Conflict transformation workshops teach problem-solving techniques that can be applied to various life situations. Participants become better at finding creative solutions to complex issues.
- Increased Self-Awareness: Participants often gain insights into their own communication styles and triggers during conflict. This self-awareness can lead to personal growth and better self-management.
- Strengthened Relationships: Improved communication and conflict resolution skills can lead to stronger and more resilient relationships, both in personal and professional life.
- Team Cohesion: Workshops conducted within organizational settings can enhance team cohesion and collaboration. Teams that can navigate conflicts effectively tend to work better together and achieve their goals more efficiently.
- Reduction in Hostility and Aggression: Conflict transformation workshops can help reduce hostility, aggression, and violence by teaching participants alternative ways to address conflicts without resorting to harmful behaviors.
- Greater Cultural Competence: In workshops focused on difficult dialogue, participants may gain cultural competence by learning about different cultural perspectives and communication styles. This can reduce misunderstandings and conflicts related to cultural differences.
- Community Building: In group settings, participants often form connections and build a sense of community as they work through challenging topics and conflicts together.
- Promotion of Diversity and Inclusion: Workshops can promote diversity and inclusion by creating a safe space for individuals to express themselves and share their perspectives, regardless of their background.
- Conflict Prevention: Participants learn strategies to prevent conflicts from escalating and becoming more destructive. This can save time, energy, and resources in the long run.
- Leadership Development: Individuals who participate in conflict transformation workshops often develop leadership skills, as they learn to facilitate discussions and guide others toward resolution.
- Long-Term Impact: The skills and insights gained in these workshops can have a long-term impact, leading to more harmonious personal relationships and healthier work environments.
I specialise in helping individuals and organisations effectively manage and resolve conflicts. I always work with the individual needs and can provide a programme which will work for your organisation.
Helping individuals and organisations effectively manage and resolve conflicts can have a wide range of positive impacts on both personal and professional levels. Here are some of the key impacts:
- Improved Relationships: Conflict resolution skills enable individuals and teams to address differences constructively. This, in turn, leads to improved relationships among team members, colleagues, friends, and family members.
- Enhanced Communication: Conflict management involves effective communication strategies. By learning to express themselves more clearly and actively listen to others, individuals and teams can improve their overall communication skills.
- Higher Productivity: Resolving conflicts quickly and effectively minimizes disruptions in the workplace. As a result, teams and organizations can maintain higher levels of productivity, meet deadlines, and achieve their goals more efficiently.
- Reduced Stress: Unresolved conflicts can lead to stress and anxiety. Conflict resolution helps individuals and organizations reduce stress levels, leading to a healthier and more pleasant work or personal environment.
- Increased Creativity: Conflict can sometimes lead to innovative solutions. When conflicts are managed positively, they can spark creativity and new ideas as individuals and teams work together to find solutions.
- Enhanced Decision-Making: Conflict resolution processes often involve gathering information and considering different perspectives. This can lead to more informed and well-rounded decision-making, benefiting individuals and organizations alike.
- Higher Employee Satisfaction: In a workplace setting, effective conflict resolution can lead to higher job satisfaction and lower turnover rates. Employees are more likely to stay with an organization that values their input and addresses their concerns.
- Stronger Teams: Conflict resolution can strengthen teams by fostering a sense of cohesion and unity. Teams that navigate and resolve conflicts together often emerge stronger and more resilient.
- Positive Reputation: Organizations known for their effective conflict resolution skills are often viewed favorably by employees, customers, and stakeholders. A positive reputation can lead to increased trust and support.
- Cost Savings: Conflicts, if left unaddressed, can lead to costly legal disputes, absenteeism, and reduced productivity. Effective conflict resolution can help organizations save money by avoiding these issues.
- Personal Growth: On a personal level, individuals who learn to manage and resolve conflicts gain valuable life skills that can positively impact their personal relationships and overall well-being.
- Conflict Prevention: Conflict resolution also involves techniques for preventing conflicts before they escalate. By addressing underlying issues and promoting open communication, future conflicts can be minimised.
In summary, the impact of helping individuals and organizations effectively manage and resolve conflicts is multifaceted and far-reaching. It contributes to healthier relationships, improved communication, and overall success in both personal and professional contexts. Additionally, it fosters a positive and constructive environment that can lead to higher levels of satisfaction and productivity.